Kristen Schaer

LMHC, she/her

As a therapist, I help individuals discover the strength, self-compassion, and tools to shape the life they desire. With a focus on kink/BDSM/fetish, intimacy, LGBTQIA2s+ populations, polyamory/CNM, and sexual pain and dysfunction, I create a collaborative, person-centered experience. My approach is grounded in inclusivity, anti-racism, and dismantling systems of oppression while integrating Emotion-Focused Therapy and Systemic Narrative Therapy. Together, we’ll build a toolkit of resources and explore therapeutic goals.

What You Can Expect

As a therapist, I aim to empower clients by helping them tap into their strength, courage, and self-compassion to create the life they want. Pleasure is a vital part of the human experience, shaped by our identities, culture, history, trauma, and relationships, and I believe each person’s experience of pleasure is unique and empowering. I prioritize creating an inclusive, compassionate, and collaborative environment where all clients feel safe and supported. My practice is committed to principles of equity and justice, and my approach is centered on your unique needs and goals, fostering a hope-based experience focused on your individuality.

I provide practical tools—whether readings, videos, or activities—that clients can use throughout therapy and beyond. Our work will be experiential and goal-oriented, fostering exploration and growth. My methods include Emotion-Focused Therapy and Systemic Narrative Therapy, with a focus on empowering each client’s journey.

Books I Suggest

Trainings

  • Autism and Sexuality with Jack Duroc-Danner
  • Out of Control Sexual Behavior with Marc Gilmartin
  • Treating Kinky Couples with Dr. Neil Cannon
  • Vulva Issues with Dr. Mia Fine
  • Sexual Attitude Reassessment with Dr. Bianca Laureano
  • Working with Trans Clients with Joey Pickering and Megan White
  • Sex Research with Joli Hamilton
  • Sex and Psychology with Dr. Sabrina Popp
  • Myth of Sex Addiction with David Ley
  • Twenty-Something to Fifty: Adult Sexual Development with Kait Scalisi
  • Sexual Coercion with Dr. Rosalyn Dischiavo
  • Responsive Desire: The Science Behind “Come As You Are” with Emily Nagoski
  • Erotophobia: Cultural Impacts with Dr. Rosalyn Dischiavo
  • Revolution: New Ideas in Gender & Orientation with Dr. Zelaika Hepworth Clarke
  • Sacred Sexuality with Christina Sophie
  • Intersections of Sex and Technology with Kait Scalisi
  • How Do I Tell You? Sexual Communication Skills with Brian Gibney
  • Erotophobia: Cultural Impacts with Dr. Rosalyn Dischiavo
  • Sexological Anatomy with Dr. Rosalyn Dischiavo

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