Alexys Gonzalez

LMHCA, ATR-P, RYT 200 (they/them) Art Therapist, Sex Therapist & Sexuality Educator

I’m a queer, mixed-race (SE Asian & Hispanic), neurodivergent (ADHD), nonbinary femme passionate about helping clients access their creative healing energy to best help clients engage in authentic living and loving with themselves, others, and the world around them. My approach to therapy is non-judgmental, non-linear, client-centered, educational, trauma-informed, and intentionally developed to honor each person’s unique life experiences and needs for healing. I am passionate about working with all aspects of sex, sexuality, identity, relationships, life, death, and intimacy, and understand the complexities and impact of marginalization has on an individual’s experience in this world. I offer an intersectional, anti-oppressive, holistic, and creative experience in therapy and aim to help clients create the least amount of harm in their lives while increasing growth, healing, pleasure, agency, autonomy, self-love, and resiliency. I believe that healing exists on a spectrum and hope to help clients find deeper understanding and healing through authentic connection and conversation.

What You Can Expect

My multi-disciplinary approach to sex therapy is influenced by my training in art therapy, sex education, painting, philosophy, and yoga. I offer a unique and individualized approach informed by Attachment Theory, Internal Family Systems, Indigenous philosophy, Intersectionality, cycles of nature, Polyvagal Theory, Narrative Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Expressive Arts Therapy, and Somatic Psychology. I hold the belief that engaging in creative self-expression is healing in itself. In addition to talk therapy, I often invite clients to engage in art-making, movement, music, tarot cards, astrology, journaling, breathwork, meditation, and other tools to engage in self-reflection and processing. As my client, you can expect to increase self-awareness, identify and deconstruct patterns, develop new coping skills, process life experiences and emotions, and better understand the behaviors, patterns, and symptoms most impactful to your life.

My Story

Growing up, I felt like I was floating through my life, unaware of who I was or what I believed in. Being raised Baptist Christian and Buddhist, queer, mixed race, and in poverty, I often felt confused, unseen, and pressured to be a different person for my community and each member of my family. Accepting myself just as I was never felt like an option and made isolation or avoidance seem easier. I moved from FL to CT when I was 12, and as I got older, I began to explore communities that centered/celebrated being different. I found my confidence, mood, and want to connect to others changed drastically during this chapter of my life. I felt alive for the first time and had a genuine want to explore the world and myself. My love for art, music, and dancing led me to study art and philosophy in college, and unbeknownst to me, I also developed tools to explore and understand the changes and stress I was experiencing. Making art and dancing gave me a language to speak to myself and show others my inner world. I felt connected to myself and something higher for the first time in my life. I quickly noticed how much stigma and judgment there was from others and the world around being an artist and began to open my eyes to all the other areas of my life that had similar biases and barriers. Unpacking and working through these led me to process and explore my trauma and created a desire to help others do this as well. This desire is what inspired my move from the East Coast to Seattle and was a catalyst in my pursuing a path that allowed me to assist others in healing through creativity, curiosity, education, and conversation. Change and exposure to queer culture for the first time gave me access/safety to explore my sexual identity and further explore the deepest parts of myself. I still experience confusion, pain, stress, feeling unseen, and pressure to change, and I still don’t know who I am. I also experience clarity, peace, pleasure, feeling seen, celebration for who I am, and love for myself. I have gratitude for all the dark I experience as much as the light. I have confidence that I will do the best I can and move with intention, care, and humility, and hope to help others write these things into their story as well.

Interests

I love art, dancing, painting/drawing, spending time in nature, roller skating, hula hooping, listening to podcasts (I’m a sucker for anything conspiracy theory, true crime, or supernatural), biking, traveling, going to see live music, cuddling with my two cats, astrology, tarot cards, philosophy, quantum physics, the stars, and space.

Books I Suggest

Trainings

  • 200 RYT Training through Yoga Farm Ithaca —January 2022
  • MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and Art Therapy through Antioch University Seattle — December 2021
  • Somatic Theory and Oppression with Alicia Guthery — October 2021
  • Beyond Settler Sex SAR with Anne Mauro & Kristen Lilla — October 2021
  • Understanding Rape Culture in the Treatment of Sexual Trauma with Dulce Rodriguez —  October 2021
  • Certification in Sex Therapy through Antioch University Seattle — June 2021
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 through The Gottman Institute— January 2021
  • Attachment Theory with Kirk Honda — January 2021
  • Colonization and Sex with Anne Mauro — January 2021
  • Telepsychology Best Practices 101 Series through American Psychology Association — July 2020
  • Fat Sexuality: A Health At Every Size Approach through  Antioch University Seattle — July 2020
  • Certification in Sexuality Education through Antioch University Seattle — June 2020
  • Improving LGBTQ Treatment Outcomes Through Integration of Sexual Health through NCTSN — May 2020
  • Responding to LGBTQ Youth after Sexual Abuse through NCTSN — May 2020
  • Adapting Trauma-Focused Treatments for Culturally Diverse Populations through NCTSN — May 2020
  • Health Interventions for Culturally Diverse Populations through NCTSN — May 2020
  • Impact of Polyvictimization on LGBTQ Youth & Adults through NCTSN — May 2020
  • Wheel of Consent with Katie Spataro —February 2020
  • Sexual Attitude Reassessment through Antioch University Seattle — January 2020
  • BA in Painting through Central Connecticut State University — May 2016
  • Understanding Out Of Control Sexual Behavior with Marc Gilmartin -March 2022

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