Navigating conflict in relationships is an essential skill that can make or break your relationship. Conflicts are a normal part of a romantic relationship, but most of the time, these are never resolved. According to Dr. John Gottman, 69% of relationship problems are unsolvable. Sometimes, we get so caught up in proving we’re right that we forget how important it is to feel connected and supported.
It’s not about solving the problem. It’s about how you go about it as a couple. In couples counseling, you’re constantly reminded that you and your partner are in it together as a team.
The good news is that conflict doesn’t have to be a source of pain and stress. By adopting some practical tips, we can navigate conflict in a way that strengthens our relationships and brings us closer to our loved ones. Let’s look at some tips that can help you and your partner go through conflict on an unsolvable problem.
Ways to Navigate Conflict With Your Partner
1.Keep communication open and honest.
Effective communication is key to navigating conflict with your partner. It’s important to be open and honest about how you feel and what you need and to encourage your partner to do the same. This can help prevent hurt feelings and misunderstandings, making it easier to find solutions to problems when they arise.
2.Practice active listening.
Listening actively means focusing your attention on your partner when they’re speaking, and really trying to understand their perspective. This involves not just hearing their words, but also paying attention to their tone of voice, body language, and any underlying emotions they may be expressing. Active listening can help you build empathy and understanding with your partner, and make it easier to work through conflicts together.
3.Take responsibility for your own feelings.
When conflict arises, it’s important to take responsibility for your own feelings and reactions. Instead of blaming your partner or expecting them to solve the problem, focus on your own needs and emotions. This can help you stay grounded and centered, making it easier to work through the conflict calmly and constructively.
4.Look for common ground.
When you’re in conflict with your partner, it’s easy to focus on your differences and the things that are causing tension between you. But it’s also important to look for common ground and areas of agreement. This can help you find solutions to problems that work for both of you and strengthen your relationship in the process.
5.Seek professional support if needed.
Sometimes, conflicts in a relationship can be difficult to resolve on your own. If you’re struggling to navigate conflict with your partner, it may be helpful to seek the help of a couples counselor. Having a professional, objective third party can help you and your partner work through difficult issues and find solutions that work for both of you.
Steer Your Relationship in the Right Direction
Conflict is natural in any relationship, and navigating it with respect and empathy can bring you closer to your partner and enhance your relationship.
We at PNW Sex Therapy Collective provide couples counseling in the greater Seattle area focusing on helping couples navigate conflict resolution, create mutual trust, and improve communication skills. These skills are beneficial for all types of relationships, whether they are currently strong or struggling.
If you and your partner are interested to learn more, reach out to us and let us help you navigate your relationship toward a healthy path.